Hello friends, happy Saturday! I’m uploading this blog post a little early, because this upcoming week I will be celebrating my birthday, writing my final essays, and also preparing for graduation. Last year, I made a post about 19 things I learned at 19, but now that I’m older and wiser (hehe) I think that I’ll share the skills I’m grateful to have right now. Thank you for all of your support, everyone, and have a wonderful week!
1. How to grocery shop
This took a bit a trial and error, but I learned how to actually grocery shop over the last few years, and it is a very useful skill, especially when your roommate buys six jars of Nutella and one bag of shredded cheese for the week’s meals…
2. How to be disciplined
You can’t just slap on a face mask and call it a day. You have to put on the face mask, knowing that you are taking time to relax, so that your productivity won’t be impacted by your stress levels. Procrastination is just fear of criticism and imperfection, so nix it asap and make time in your life for work and pleasure equally.
3. How to make friends
Friends are so, so important, I cannot stress this enough!!!! I used to label myself as an introvert, but in reality I’m an ambivert who was hanging out with the wrong group of people. Actively work to find your tribe, and show them you love them.
4. How to live with few regrets
“However, never underestimate the power of privately extending a simple, loving, but direct challenge. Though it may not be reciprocated, such love is never wasted.” – Elder Neal A. Maxwell. The common internet paraphrasing is “Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest on reciprocity”. Either way, very true!!
5. How to write a good thank you note
After interviews, when someone writes you a letter of recommendation, when your friend buys you a gift…I personally think that the art of handwritten thank you notes is very unappreciated in the modern world, and that should be remedied asap.
6. How to shop
It took me so long to admit I wear things that are too big because I’m uncomfortable with my body. However, not only was this a waste of money, but it was unflattering and further destroyed my confidence. IGNORE the label, and focus on how the actually fabric fits you. I’ve been everything from an XS to XL in the last few months, so just throw that all out of the window and look at your measurements.
7. How to play the piano
I think everyone should learn how to play at least one instrument, and even though I really hated being forced to learn when I was a kid, I’m grateful that I have a creative outlet that involves music.
8. How to accept a compliment
This is a bit harsh, but I’ll be honest – when I give someone a compliment and they turn it into an insult on themselves, it annoys me. I’m known as a person with good taste, so if I compliment your intellect or fashion sense, and you tell me I’m crazy, then we’re both in an awkward situation.
9. How to file taxes
I’m so, so grateful I forced myself to learn this early on my life, instead of paying someone half of my paycheck every year to do it for me.
10. How to forgive
Oof – sometimes people are cruel and ignorant. But, as an old Tumblr post once said, “The fire that warms your heart now will leave you cold in the grave”. Fight for justice, of course, but don’t let your mind be consumed with anger and resentment.
11. How to cook
Another!! Very!! Important!! Skill!! Please don’t be that twenty-something spending $100 a week on food because you don’t know how to boil an egg.
12. How to change a lightbulb
Another very useful and underrated skill!
13. How to tip
I always tip 20%~ by moving the decimal place and then multiplying the new number by 2. For example, if I have a bill of $16.43, I multiple $1.64 by 2 and then tip $3.24. Saves a lot of time!
14. How to use Microsoft, Excel, and Photoshop
I will enroll my children in computer coding classes, but until then, I’m glad I know how to use Microsoft, Excel, Photoshop, and I have basic video editing skills. The modern-day job market requires so much internet savvy, so do yourself a favor and learn early on.
15. How to apologize
It’s always hard to apologize, but it’s invaluable to your self growth, the person you are apologizing to, and also your relationship. I’ve screwed up countless times, but a heartfelt apology goes a long way, and my relationships have been made stronger by it.
16. How to cut a mango
I’m really good at this, lol.
17. How to study
Everyone learns differently, and I’ve realized that I study best when I’m alone in a cafe or similar environment with minimal noise and relaxed food policies. I’m also a hardcore handwritten-notes advocate. So, find out what works for you, and ACTUALLY do that.
18. How to take risks
There’s a difference between being stupid and taking a calculated risk. If you weigh the pros and cons, and the benefits are great, then stop thinking and go for it. Don’t, however, be reckless with your life and the lives of others.
19. How to draw quickly
The amount of times I’ve placated a small child with a drawing is immeasurable. Learn how to draw some basic animals, people, and rockets and you’ll be good. 🙂
20. How to be grateful
I’ve loved my 19th year of life – I made so many new, genuine friends, and I’m so happy with what I’ve accomplished and what the future has in store for me. Shout-out to the universe for gifting me with this life, and here’s to hoping that 20 has even better adventures in store 🙂